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Heroic Jenny Sanford (refuses to stand by her cheatin’ man because of her own self-esteem)

December 11, 2009

“Certainly his actions hurt me, and they caused consequences for me, but they don’t in any way take away my own self-esteem,” Jenny Sanford, told ABC’s Barbara Walters. “They reflect poorly on him.”

Too many women (lacking better economic options, perhaps) stand by their married men — those paragons of patriarchy — who may talk about wearing the pants in the family but seem fonder of not wearing their pants, famously evidenced from Dave Letterman and the Governor of South Carolina to Tiger Woods. Imagine it said by Chris Rock: “Tiger Woods? Ti-ger Wooods!!! Who knew he had morning wooood an-y (!) place (!) but his golf (!) bag (!).”

No, it’s not really funny.

And it’s not just a dilemma of high-dollar celebrities and how they see women. Derision of women happens at every level of the class structure. For instance, a food vendor serving wage-earners in LA pictures the female form as nothing but appetite satisfaction for men.

There’s no excuse for men of the typical variety who deride women by their conduct, no matter how pleasant or funny they try to be. Men claiming “good will toward women” need to call out the “no excuse” misogyny of their brethren.

As misogyny’s regular target (true of girls and women everywhere), I’m too focused on keeping mind and body together for myself and my daughter to head the counter movement about men who show their woman-hating by how they behave. Instead, let the “good” men do it. They benefit from their gender class position in society; in fair return for their generic male privilege, let them reign in the male misogynists.

But they don’t often do that, do they?

Watch the behaviors of men, skip their words, and you’ll start to free yourself.

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